FAQs

  • What is the FEEL Deck?

    FEEL is a 104-card erotic prompt deck created by artist Aubrié Costello as part of THE EROTIC PROJECT. Designed for self-reflection, pleasure exploration, emotional grounding, and deepened connection, the deck invites you to engage with your erotic intelligence through writing, conversation, imagination, and embodied awareness.

  • Who is FEEL for?

    FEEL is for anyone seeking a mindful relationship with pleasure. It supports queer, trans, nonbinary, and neurodivergent folks; individuals healing from shame; couples or partners who want to build trust; and anyone curious about softening into their body and desires.

  • How do I use FEEL?

    There is no wrong way to use FEEL.
    You can:

    ~pull a card daily for reflection

    ~use prompts as journaling or creative writing exercises

    ~explore together with a partner

    ~bring cards into therapy, intimacy coaching, or community circles

    ~integrate them into rituals, meditation, or somatic practice

  • What’s the difference between SOLO and SHARED cards?

    SOLO cards are designed for personal exploration.
    SHARED cards are designed for partnered or collective play.
    You can use both in whatever way feels supportive, regardless of relationship status.

  • Is FEEL sexually explicit?

    FEEL centers eroticism, not pornography.
    The prompts explore desire, boundaries, imagination, memory, self-knowledge, and emotional intimacy with tenderness and consent. The deck is crafted to be safe, grounding, and trauma-informed.

  • Is FEEL queer-affirming?

    Yes. FEEL was created for and by queer artists. Every aspect of the deck honors queer pleasure, queer histories, and queer ways of relating.

  • Can I use FEEL if I’ve experienced trauma?

    Yes—with care.
    FEEL was designed with trauma-aware language and gentle pacing. You are encouraged to move slowly, pause when needed, and skip any card that doesn’t feel right in the moment. A gentle reminder that FEEL is for entertainment purposes only. Please seek help for trauma from a trusted professional.

  • What comes in the deck?

    ~104 cards

    ~a mix of SOLO + SHARED prompts

    ~a keepsake box

    ~high-quality matte card finish

    ~original text across the entire deck

    ~Optional: You can purchase the FEEL Deck + the SOFT Book to deepen your FEELings.

  • Where is FEEL made?

    FEEL is designed by artist Aubrié Costello and Nick Vicente in Philadelphia and printed in limited quantities with high-quality ethical manufacturing partners in China to ensure accessible pricing and durability.

  • Do you ship internationally?

    Yes. Shipping rates are calculated at checkout. International customers are responsible for VAT and customs fees.

  • Do you offer wholesale or stockist partnerships?

    Yes. FEEL is available for bookstores, galleries, boutiques, wellness centers, institutions, organizations, hotels, and museum shops.
    Email ilysm@theeroticproject.com

  • Do you offer returns or exchanges?

    All sales are final, but if your deck arrives damaged, please reach out within 3 days of delivery and we will make it right.

  • How do I support the project?

    You can:

    ~purchase FEEL or gift it to someone you care about

    ~leave a review

    ~share your experience on social media

    ~attend public events, screenings, and installations

    ~join the project newsletter for upcoming releases and FEEL II

  • Where can I learn more about THE EROTIC PROJECT?

    Visit our main site or follow THE EROTIC PROJECT on social media to explore films, installations, literary works, and upcoming public programming.